B is for Boundaries: Strategies for Keeping the Holidays Happy

B is for Boundaries: Strategies for Keeping the Holidays Happy

The holidays are supposed to be a time for happiness, cheer and wonderful family experiences, right? For some this isn’t always the case. The effort to keep spirits high as the snow falls or the idea of spending time with a mother-in-law that constantly criticizes you might instead feel more like a Halloween horror. To help increase your enjoyment during the holiday season it’s important to have your boundaries in place. 

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A is for Aphrodisiacs: How they Help (or not Help) Increase Your Desire

A is for Aphrodisiacs: How they Help (or not Help) Increase Your Desire

When someone mentions aphrodisiacs what comes to mind? Like me, you might recall a book or movie mentioning a food like oysters and the promise that somehow in their slimy midst they have special properties that boost sexual desire. Pop culture even comments on aphrodisiacs, such as in the movie Wedding Crashers when Will Ferrell give his two cents on what he believes is “natures most powerful aphrodisiac”. Ferrell was comical in his idea of an aphrodisiac but it makes one wonder - what exactly are aphrodisiacs and their role in desire?

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Speaking Up in the Bedroom

Speaking Up in the Bedroom

Sex is a conversation between bodies but we often find it difficult to include our voice in the conversation. Most of us aren't mind readers and getting the pleasure you need can turn into a frustrating guessing game for your partner... unless you speak up. But saying "Mmmm I like how you feel but can you use more pressure with your tongue" can be difficult for many to say. It takes a level of assertiveness as well acknowledging that you deserve to ask for the pleasure you want. For those moments when you wish you would say "a little to the left",  building your comfort with being assertive is a great place to start. 

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