T is for Transition: Four Transitions of Intimacy for Optimal Desire

T is for Transition: Four Transitions of Intimacy for Optimal Desire

As a woman you need to be intentional about your desire because it isn’t something that you can sit back and wait for things to happen. Autopilot just doesn’t work in intimacy. That would be the equivalent to sitting in the passenger side of a car and expecting the car to go on its own while at the same time being frustrated nothing is happening. Sure there are Teslas now but that’s more of like how most men experience desire. They can sit back and their hormones can drive without much other influence. As a woman, your sexuality and desire require you to get into the driver seat and know how to drive your desire and that includes paying attention to the transitions of intimacy…

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S is for Spontaneous Desire: What Spontaneous Desire Looks Like For Women

S is for Spontaneous Desire: What Spontaneous Desire Looks Like For Women

Spontaneous, excited desire is what we are often programmed to think is the “right” type of desire. This is because the “I want to jump you now” mentality is what we often see in the media because it creates quick, steamy sex scenes, which sells movies. But what does spontaneous desire actually look like in long-term relationships? And even more, what does it look like for women? The reality of these questions is important to your understanding and approach to the sexual side of your relationship…

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R is for Responsive Desire: The Dominant Type of Desire for Most Women

R is for Responsive Desire: The Dominant Type of Desire for Most Women

Over and over I get women that come into my office that struggle with desire. Their partner is frustrated, they are frustrated, and both often feel stuck in what to do about it. He might think “why doesn’t she want more sex?” and in search of the answer his mind often lands on things like “Is it because I’m undesirable? Is something wrong with her? Is there something wrong in our relationship?” And on the other side, she may think “I want to want to have sex with my partner” and because…

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